Marriage Seperation

The following points to be the IMPORTANT

FACTORS TO RELATE FOR MARRIAGE Separation ADVICE

Don’t publicize it

Tell someone you are getting a divorce, and suddenly everyone has something to say. You’ll hear horror stories, preaching, etc., most of them inaccurate or exaggerated.

And that means people are talking about you and your spouse. Like the game “Telephone,” what you say will come back to you contorted, and your spouse will have heard it, too. That often perpetuates a divorce.

Don’t maintain the status quo

You might agree to pay the bills for your wife while you rent a one-bedroom apartment, but you are fitting yourself for disaster if one of you files for divorce later.

For one thing, if she really needs a job, you give her no incentive to get one. Moreover, by continuing to pay the mortgage, the insurance, the utilities, the grocery bill, etc., you are making her case for alimony. You send the message that you can support her, even if you can’t, and are comfortable doing it, even if you aren’t. The better thing to do is determine, before you separate, who is responsible for what bill, put the bill in that person’s name (if possible), and follow-up to make sure the bill is paid.

Don’t move out

Move out of your home and your chances of retaining even equal time with your children or your precious belongings are slim to none. Moving out before the divorce stupidest mistake man makes when facing divorce.

Those news stories about couples living in separate homes and sharing time with the kids are just that – stories. It rarely happens in real life, and it probably does not happen much in Hollywood life, either.

To a judge, you look like the parent who gave up and the spouse who evidently did not care much about the baseball card collection to take it with you when you left.

Judges rarely care how helpful you thought you would be by letting your wife stay with the kids or how much you intended to return to retrieve your belongings. Your wife, who’s angling to keep the kids and your stuff, will make you out to be nothing more than an abandoned.

Don’t date just to date

A trial separation is supposed to be a time to discover what you want, but that does not mean you have to test out different women.

Take this time to reflect on your marriage and your goals, and leave the casual dating alone Otherwise, you could end up with your own “love child” and an unintended reason to get a divorce.

Don’t delay the inevitable

The separation should be a short time to reflect. Believe it or not, many go on for years, both spouses waiting for the other to make the first move. The problem is, neither is happy, and one spouse (probably you) is stuck paying the bills.

Although, in some states, your separation agreement before a divorce begins will not replace an agreement to divide your property and debts made during your divorce, it is a good precedent.

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