How To Save Your Marriage
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YOU KNOW YOU AREN’T THE PERFECT WIFE
Don’t worry, this is a good thing according to Amy Spencer, author of Meeting Your Half-Orange and a happiness expert focused on how shifting your perspective can change your life. “There are always relationship physics at work every action has an equal and opposite reaction, right?” she challenges. “So it’s important to be able to look at how his behaviors, moods or choices may be impacted by your behaviors or moods or choices. If you are able to cite moments where you unfairly criticized him, behaved poorly, or hurt him first, then you are seeing how your own energy and behavior can be a catalyst to a negative interaction between the two of you.” If you shift how you speak or act in certain situations, it could lead to different interactions with your husband. “If you can put yourself in his shoes and see that you’ve been in the wrong, there’s reason to reboot your marriage.
LITTLE REMINDERS OF HIM MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD
Ever get a whiff of your husband’s cologne, or signature tomato sauce and feel warm and fuzzy? Savor that moment and use it,. “Scent is the one sense tied most closely to our emotional memories, so if his cologne, or salty after-gym smell still has positive connotations to you, that’s good news.” It’s almost as if your nose is telling you that, deep down, your brain still puts him in the ‘he’s a good one’ category. “It’s worth looking for whether this feels true in your day to day life as well.”
YOU CHEATED AND THE GRASS WASN’T GREENER
“Infidelity isn’t the end of the marriage or the relationship.” a relationship expert and author of books including Romantic, Date Ideas, which includes sexy “at home” dates and fail-proof seduction secrets. If both people in the relationship really want things to work in spite of feeling sad, betrayed or angry it can be done. “The most important thing to remember is that most infidelities are a symptom of a problem in the relationship. They don’t mean something is wrong with the person who cheated or the person who was cheated on. When couples can see infidelity as a relationship problem, they are more likely to be able to work on the relationship and go the distance.”
YOU BOTH RECOGNIZE FAMILY IS FIRST.
“The strongest part of any family is wanting to spend the small day-to-day moments together, like going for ice cream or to the park,” as she’s not saying stay together for the kids, but she is suggesting you think twice before you file the divorce papers, breaking up the family. It’s generally asking yourself the following questions: Do you still enjoy doing things together as a family? Do you find that doing things with the kids but without your husband makes you sad? “If you really enjoy spending time together as a family unit, maybe that unit is worth keeping together.”
YOU STILL GO ON DATES.
Yes, life is hectic. Between work, home-life and keeping track of your child’s social calendar, sometimes it’s so much easier to crash on the couch and watch TV while your husband drinks beers out back. But don’t do this, as per advises of a psychologist. Falling into a dateless marriage can put a damper on the roles you play to each other husband and wife. “If you still make time for ‘couple time’ without the kids, you’re on to something.”Maybe glamorous restaurants aren’t quite in the budget, but planning activities minus the kid’s means you want to connect just the two of you. This is great.”
YOU FEEL SAFE SHARING YOUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS WITH YOUR SPOUSE.
Regardless of what’s going on in your marriage, you still know in your heart that you can talk to your husband about how you truly feel. “We all crave acceptance for who we really are,” it is not pretending to be what the other person wants us to be is crucial. If both people continue to offer the other safety to be transparent without judgment or rejection, their relationship is highly susceptible to being saved.
YOU THINK OF YOURSELVES AS A TEAM
“Couples that think of themselves as a team, are much more likely to stay together. “It is healthy that they view themselves as self-sufficient individuals, but when they also have a shared identity (we, us) they are much more likely to realize that they have within themselves the commitment to work things out.”
YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX
When things are rocky, having sex or performing acts that pleasure your partner are not always in the cards. But even if you’re not in the mood at the moment, there’s hope if you actually still want to connect intimately. Apparently it may she says wanting to have sex even when you are struggling with a relationship, shows that you are deeply bonded to your partner. “If it feels unnatural to withhold sex even when things are rocky, it can indicate that you are thinking about what is best for the relationship in the long term, “If you don’t want to deprive your marriage of the intimate connection, it is a sign that you really care about each other and want to make the marriage work.”
MEMORIES ARE AT THE FOREFRONT OF YOUR MIND.
That time you did tequila shots and went skinny dipping. Great memories are the glue that can hold a relationship together, “When the things are tough, people tend to look back on all of the good times with their partner and feel hopeful that they can get back to that happy place again.” It’s a key to zone in on how loved you felt in the past. “Get inspired to work hard on the relationship to bring all of those good feelings back and make new memories.”